Firstly, let’s be honest: there is no definitive moment where music starts playing, your heart skips a beat, and you know without question that your boyfriend is “the one”. Nothing in life is ever that simple, and all the more when it comes to matter of the heart!

However, that doesn’t mean there aren’t signs that your relationship is built to go the distance. While they are not necessarily true of every relationship - every couple is different after all - there are usually a few indicators that a couple has got a strong foundation which could see them through the rest of your lives.

If you and your boyfriend have been together for awhile and you’re wondering if this is the boyfriend who will become your husband, here are a few of the things that you should be looking out for.

You Think About The Marriage- Not The Wedding

It’s easy to get caught up in the idea of wanting to get engaged, plan a wedding, and get married. Who wouldn’t love it? You get to choose from the range of Verragio rings and wear a gorgeous piece of jewellery; all your family and friends will be excited; you get to plan and have a wedding. The whole process of getting married is exciting from start to finish, and any woman who has ever idly doodled her name with her boyfriend’s surname after it has thought about what their wedding day would be like.

However, if you think primarily about the wedding and not the marriage, then that’s not a good sign. Wanting to be with someone is about building a future together; not just the enjoyable furore that leads up to the nuptials. If you’re spending more time dreaming of being a bride on your special day than a wife on a normal day, then you might just more like the idea of being married to someone - not necessarily your boyfriend.

If, however, you see the wedding as part of the future rather than the definition of the future, then you’re onto a winner.

You’ve Survived Rough Patches

A couple can be perfectly happy together potentially for years, but if they’re not tested, then they will crumble at the first sign of trouble. To truly be sure that you and your boyfriend have the right stuff for marriage, it helps if you have survived testing times - such as job losses or ill health - and come through the other side the stronger for it.

You Trust Him

It is perhaps a little simplistic to say that relationships are nothing without trust, but there’s no doubt it is a huge foundation for a relationship that is going to stand the test of time. Do you still feel flickers of fear when you see him talking to a pretty woman? Do you ever feel the urge to check his texts?

It’s one thing to occasionally worry about these things, but it’s quite another to have it be a continual focus. Jealousy and paranoia will be the ruin of any marriage so, until you have settled those concerns, it’s perhaps best to leave marriage on the backburner for now.

If, however, you have nothing but fleeting thoughts that are soon soothed by the reality of your relationship, then you really might have just hit upon the one. It’s always going to be a judgement call, but if the above apply, then it sounds like your head and heart are going in the right direction.

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